Mother’s day is supposed to be a day of Joy, Love and Passion…
And in a day of Much Joy and Celebration a huge population of women are forgotten or are having a day of Mother’s day blues.
There are many women who either: their child died, their child is missing, miscarried a baby, or due to various reasons couldn’t give birth to a child, due to either abuse, endometriosis, women who have had to have early hysterectomy’s etc…
And some women just never wanted to have children for various reasons.
This Post goes out to all of those women and more…
Whether You have given birth to a child or not… know that You have been a mother to someone – Human or Pet, and someone, somewhere is in deep gratitude for the role You have played in their life. Know that You are…
With Social Media, Media-TV, commercials, Magazines etc. People are Flooded with Happy Mother’s Day images and… with Social Media Platforms You have people writing on Your walls Happy Mother’s Day, whether You are a Mother or not – And… for some that can be hurtful and even very hard if one does not know what the person may or is going through in that very moment.
It took me Years to get over the sadness, pain, loss of having had an early hysterectomy at the age of 25 and every time I was invited to a baby shower or saw a baby I went thru waves of sadness. As I Loved children and even ran a pre-school I created called Learning, Playing and Growing, yet deep town with all of the surgeries and issues and one pregnancy termination due to medical issues the odds of being a mother in that way was for not.
So why do I mention all of the above because, I thing society as a whole gets so caught up in the Media, advertising and selling they lose site of having empathy and compassion for others and what the actual word Mother or being a mother means to some.
A Huge example of this came to my attention yesterday when Angelina Jolie’s decision to get a double mastectomy brought massive criticism, being that she is under 40 and not having any current symptoms to suggest she had or would have breast cancer-so why would she remove two healthy breasts.
To the people that were criticizing I would say who are we to judge ?
-Unless You have watched a Close Loved one die from cancer as a Young child,Young adult or at any age for that matter. Watching close loved ones die from cancer is emotionally, physically and spiritually beyond draining and an emotional roller coaster ride. I used to work for Hospice as well as have had people close to me die, so I understand it well.
-Have the Breast Cancer Gene Mutation
-Currently Have Young Children or are currently married at the time of finding out You had the Breast Cancer Gene
Some would argue that she may never get it and just watch and monitor. Yes and I have seen people get mammograms every 3 months and then boom find out they had it and it had already advanced to stage 4 and was terminal.
We don’t know… There are so many variables, theories on cell mutation and even with someone who eats healthy, works out, it does not mean they may not get cancer. Furthermore… if You knew you had the gene would you want to live your live with the what if’s, and wonder when it might strike.
I would have to say that about any disease. I give Major Kudos to Public Figures that come forward with their triumphs and decisions over illness, the only difference between them and us is they are under constant scrutiny about ever aspect of their lives. Many people get cancer, have elective surgeries, the only difference is that when a celebrity says they are doing this or that the entire world knows.
So, I will take this back to Mothers, and the Bond a Mother feels for her children, that is something so strong, innate and as Angelina Jolie said she didn’t want her children to grow up with the fear they may lose their mother.
I would wish upon our society that we Allowed each and every person to make the medical choices or any choices in their life’s that they feel is right for themselves and or families.
If we all focused on Family values and what family meant, whether it was Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, Xmas, Boxing day, would not matter… what would matter is the Love and Bond we have with one another because in the end whether we know it or not we are all interconnected.
Would Love to hear your thoughts.
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©2013 Carly Alyssa Thorne